Helen Iwata | President of Sasuga Communications K. K. / TEDx Speaker / 2009 Itosu-ryu Karatedo World Champion / Ex-Manager of Client Communications at McKinsey & Company
Date: Apr. 4th (Wed.), 2018
Humans are naturally a social species. While most of us think we want close connections, we resist vulnerability, the very trait that makes that connection possible. In a culture that often praises having a thick skin and staying strong and self-contained, we mistakenly brush off being vulnerable as weak. We believe it will unnecessarily expose us to hurt and humiliation that could have been easily avoided. Yet, what vulnerability is really about is the willingness to truly be ourselves – to expose a softer side of ourselves that is not hidden behind our defenses.
As researcher Brené Brown put it, “Vulnerability is about having the courage to show up and be seen.” It’s surprising just how anxious being vulnerable can make us: it challenges us to give up an old, familiar identity and form a new conception of ourselves in which we believe we’ll be accepted for who we are. Vulnerability allows us to understand our value and gives us the courage to reveal ourselves in ways that will strengthen our connections to ourselves as well as to others.
It’s time to consider how we can benefit from being more vulnerable — even within the Japanese culture of “meiwaku o kakenai” (not causing trouble), “haji o kakanai” (not embarrassing yourself), “tatemae” (putting on a face), and “gaman” (putting up with the situation). So get ready to explore our vulnerability and learn to step gently out of your comfort zone!
“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.” ~ Brené Brown, Daring Greatly
In this workshop, Helen will aim to show you how to:
◆ Ask for what you want or need
◆ Be willing to expose your feelings
◆ Feel better about rejection
◆ Express your emotions and weaknesses
◆ Celebrate your imperfections