Sachi Nakajima | NPO Resilience Founder / DV & SV Survivor / Author
Date: May 16th (Wed.), 2018
As you know, we are experts at finding millions of reasons not to pursue our passions, not to listen to our hearts’ desires, and/or not to take action to maximize our potential. Our reasons seem…well, reasonable. We justify why we can’t or shouldn’t do something, convincing ourselves of almost anything despite the dire consequences. For instance, we reason out that we don’t have the right connections, the necessary education, the right amount of money, and/or the talent to realize our dreams. After all, we’re just trying to be realistic, responsible, smart and…safe.
But let’s face it: we all know how often these excuses and justifications lead to dissatisfaction and despair. Without trial and error, which always leads to success in some form, how can we possibly feel a sense of accomplishment?
Excuses are our way of avoiding failures. This stems from fear and shame. If we let the “inner critic” voices in, they will continue to tell us we can’t stand out, or that we would only humiliate ourselves and our loved ones.
As a victim and a survivor of domestic, emotional and sexual violence, I also experienced making excuses due to my confusion, hurt and fear. I don’t know how I managed to survive after that horrible experience with my first ex-boyfriend of 4 and a half years.
In this workshop, I will be sharing my stories and tools with you. There is always “a way out” as long as we open our eyes to the infinite options ever present, without making excuses (even when it doesn’t seem that way).
“It is wise to direct your anger towards problems—not people, to focus your energies on answers—not excuses.” – William Arthur Ward
This workshop aims to show you how to:
- Differentiate between “green,” “yellow,” and “red” people to proactively create a healthy, safe environment for yourself
- Understand your window of tolerance to set healthy boundaries
- Make room for positive, empowering people
- Deal with your sense of shame
- Learn to accept yourself as you are